Reasons I Should NOT Get Tinder

tinder-logoA lot of my friends have this app and while I do like joining in on the “judging time” as I like to call it, I know there are many reasons I should not get it myself. Mainly because I’m immature and wouldn’t use it for the reasons intended.

  • I will swipe right based only on if I like their name.
  • Ditto for an animal of any kind in their picture.
  • I might swipe in a pattern just to see how it influences my matches for fun.
  • My ego will either skyrocket or plummet and either way it’s bad news bears.
  • I have a tendency to always answer any messages people send which is not the greatest idea if you don’t actually want to meet someone.
  • I honestly have to be reminded which direction means what so that’s always a great start.
  • I will spend way too much time looking through everyone’s pictures and bios.
  • I will definitely end up making a bingo sheet to have fun with common trends in people’s profiles.
  • Oh, and I’ve had a boyfriend for over a year whom I love very much, that’s probably important.

Anyone else share my views on tinder? Or have any funny stories, I do love hearing those, feel free to share in the comments!

 

 

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2016 Goals

I’ve decided that if I don’t call them “resolutions” that there might be a higher chance of me trying to accomplish them.

I’m actually one of those people that tries to take every opportunity I can to make promises that I inevitably don’t keep to better myself. At the beginning of a new school year, after a particularly unproductive weekend, whatever might motivate me to try and have a New Start to create a Better Self.

At least I realize that I’m not that disciplined of a person and am not that disappointed in my failure but I do know that I steadily improve each time I try to create new habits. In conclusion, it’s not like setting goals for myself is making anything worse so here I go!

1. Develop skills. This includes but is not limited to my coding abilities, decreasing my aversion to networking and spending more time crocheting cool projects.

2. Spend more time reading. Honestly I’ve gone from reading 100+ books a year to less than 50 and I’m not sure why, maybe it was because I’ve been spending more time on the internet or homework is much harder than it used to be but I would like to go back to the former please.

3. Put effort into others. Just because I am an introvert does not mean that I’m allowed to never plan hang outs and not stay friends with the cool people that I have the pleasure of knowing in my life.

4. Clean up. My ability to walk through a dirty room unfazed is stellar, unfortunately that is exactly what I’m trying to curb. Hopefully I can create habits that make it less of a chore to stay tidy!

5. Track money and time. I find that if I know where I am spending my money and my time then I will be much more capable of deciding whether that is something I want to continue or if there are things I need to cut back on.

6. Be the nerd I want to be. Which is someone that is always on top of their schoolwork and rewrites their notes are prettily and pretty much knows everything about all their subjects. Serious goals.

The Stresses of Being Early

This may be a plausible reason to explain perpetual lateness.

This idea stemmed from a conversation my friend and I had concerning arrival times to an event we were both going to.

See, we both had this intense dislike of being the first one there. There are so many things that stressed us out about the concept of there not being anyone there before us. This includes

  • Stressing out about it being the wrong location
  • Double and triple checking that you got the time right (Man, I’ve gotten somewhere an hour early by accident and it sucked so this is a thing)
  • Worrying that information was passed around about a change in plans but it didn’t get to you
  • Secretly wondering if everyone just decided to ditch you
  • That people are already there and are just in a different place and can’t see you and you’re the one that’s late
  • The people around you are wondering why you’re all alone and why you look so awkward
  • That you might kill your phone battery because you need something to do to not look out of place

Let me know in the comments if you are a late person and this actually makes sense to you or, if you’re an early person, what motivations overpower these worries to make you early!

Reasons to Smile #7

Genuine smiles

Being able to quote a movie while watching it

Eating ice

Starting a new notebook

Beating a personal best in something fitness related

Knowing exactly where you left something (and it actually being there)

When the wind doesn’t blow your hair in your face

Being as comfortable in your friend’s house as your own

Seeing a deer in the wild

Shredding paper

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Road Trip Essentials

The most summer thing to do.

It may be quite late into the summer but it’s not too late to get in one last hurrah and plan a road trip for the fun of it! I’ll be going on one this coming weekend and thought it would be a great idea to outline all the essentials to keep this bon voyage from becoming a chorus of heavenly “are we there yet???”

roadtrip - destination

The first thing you’re going to want to decide on is where you’re going. The road trip could just be driving aimlessly but then there’s no real purpose. Some ideas are:

  • A place where a lot of your family lives
  • A city where a friend you haven’t seen in a while lives
  • Somewhere you’ve never been before and know no one and are just going for the adventure
  • A place from your childhood

Anywhere you’ve been itching to go in order to see the sights or catch up on life stories is doable as long as there are roads between it and you.

roadtrip - transportation

I may be blowing my cover as Captain Obvious here but it needs to be said. Not only does there need to be a human that can drive a car in the party of people going, there also needs to be a car that
a) will survive a trip of your desired length and
b) can comfortably seat everyone.
It will be no fun sitting on the side of the road waiting for a tow truck for a couple hours and neither will a blast be had if you have to be in the middle seat scrunched between two other people. Think of these things beforehand and you’ll be thanking yourself by the end.

roadtrip - company

In the previous paragraphs, I’ve been directing this post towards one person – you. But it doesn’t have to be like that at all. Even though solitude is nice sometimes, to just drive without anyone around you either in the car or on the roads, the friends are what make a road trip memorable. Make sure you get along with anyone in the car because if there’s something between you guys, it’ll most likely be amplified in the tiny space of a moving vehicle. Best friends are great candidates because willingly spending this much time with them isn’t a chore, unlike family road trips sometimes end up being.

You’ll have plenty of time to talk, invent silly car games and just be around each other so if you don’t know your travel-mates’ life stories at the beginning of this journey, you just might by the end.

roadtrip - music

This deserves capital letters because most people have strong opinions on the music they want to listen to. And since there’ll be a lot of time to fill during any road trip, the songs are going to need to happen! It’s best to know what common ground everyone coming along has in terms of music taste, including everyone’s vetos. Of course, everyone should be willing to be flexible in order for everyone to be happy and I really don’t think you can go wrong with Disney!

Some people like creating playlists that have the theme of summer or vacation or road trips to set the mood so if anyone in the car has a knack for that, get them to go right ahead and you’ll feel 10x more legit.

roadtrip - snacks

Humans need to eat in order to live. [citation needed] Whatever your food situation may be, be it quick runs to the Timmies* every time you stop from gas, an entire picnic meal/dinner or easy access snack items, it’s important to have some on hand so that everyone stays comfortable and happy. Water is also an important thing to pack, although in this scenario you have to think of when you’ll be able to let it out.

*non-Canadians can calm their confusion, I’m just talking about Tim Horton’s, our equivalent of your coffee and donut shops.

roadtrip - entertainment

We’ve talked about music which is a large portion of car ride entertainment but there’s plenty of other things to do. As I child, I was the queen of making up something to keep my sister and I occupied in the back seat. I’m not sure how many I got from other places and how many I got from my brain but I will share them all willingly here.

The Alphabet Game – Very straightforward, you’re competing against or working together with everyone in the car in order to find all the letters of the alphabet in order on anything you see outside of the car. (stores, licence plates, road signs, etc) One of my rules is that you may only take one letter from a common location before you move on

The Rainbow Car Game – Same deal, look outside your window and find a car that is each colour of the rainbow in order (red, orange, yellow, green blue, purple). Orange and yellow and quite rare and you may find yourself stuck on those for a while

Car Count – This is a straight up competition. You each pick a colour of car and count every time you see one of that colour. Whoever gets the most wins! Heads up, silver and red are quite common.

Animal Name Game – this game definitely was invented by me. It involves looking for animals outside and then giving them a name. That is all. Good for going through the countryside and seeing cow after horse after llama. I’ve given a flock of birds names, they get quite silly at this point.

Bingo/Scavenger Hunt – If someone wants to put in the necessary effort of thinking up things you could potentially see on a road trip, they should definitely do so because that could be a lot of fun!

roadtrip - plan

Overall, you just really need to plan this kind of thing out. I know in the movies and books, they just jump in the car with their sunglasses and romantic tension and off they go but really it’s important to have a very good idea of certain things like

  • what route you’ll take
  • where you’ll stop and how often
  • where you’re going to sleep
  • who brings what
  • how long it’ll take

Everyone should also be aware of the plan so that it’s not up to one person to stress all about it. If you’ve got locations in mind in advance, there’s much less of a chance of something going wrong and therefore a higher chance of everyone having a great time!

A Few Final Things…

You should keep in mind the distance as well because sometimes a road trip can be too long and cars can start feeling like a sardine can – smell and all. The longer the trip, the higher the cost with food and gas and places to sleep so although it feels very freeing to just go, it won’t do to use up all your funds on this expedition.

And that is all of my knowledge about road trips, please put it to good use and tell me about any road trips you’ll go on in the future or have gone on and loved. It’s good to enjoy the summer while you can because school is just around the corner (small gasp)

The Curse of Wasting Time on Your Own

Or, Karen complains about nothing important!

So I’m living the office life 37.5 hours a week for the past 14 weeks. I went through the phase of being in awe and excited about everything from attending a teleconference to having a drawer with my own stapler. We’re past that, although I am going to miss my plethora of sticky notes.

I’m sure everyone’s on the same page with me on this when I say that it’s impossible for me to work at 100% efficiency for the entire 8 hours that I’m here. Sometimes you just need to click away from what you’re doing and take a walk or check facebook.

The thing is, we all pretty much pretend we’re working all the time, I’ve seen many a fast window change or two screens with one having a buzzfeed article and the other a random excel sheet. And that’s totally fine I know these coworkers of mine are competent and have been powering through their work during the day also.

The people that I’m envious of are the ones that like chatting as a form of straying from their work. I have been in a conversation about firefighters for almost half an hour one time because the dude I was talking to was so effective at continuing the conversation. I see those people that bring over a paper to another section of the office then stay to talk about their vacation and this tv show and what they’re having for lunch which is great and the only way to ever got to know who you’re working with in the long run but it’s so subtle at wasting time.

If I was on youtube straight up just laughing at what I’m watching for 20 entire minutes, that’s extremely different than standing up and talking with the person across from your cubicle for the same duration.

“But Karen, nothing’s stopping you from also doing that”, you say. Yes, there is something stopping me and it’s that I’d rather be working than attempting to converse for a long amount of time a) with people I don’t know very well and b) when I’m tired and am actually wanting a break. It doesn’t make me energized in the least to have a vague discussion about weekend plans which truly does suck because I feel like those types of people can get away with so much more!

That concludes my non-issue at work today, back to trying to explain the math I did to people who don’t care about math‼

Reverse Procrastination

While I was shirking my responsibilities, discovering new corners of the internet to get lost in, I had a novel idea.

I’m pretty sure everyone in the universe experiences the phenomenon where when you really need to get something done but there’s still enough of a window that you’re not in last minute panic mode it seems like absolutely everything else is way more interesting. I find that things are more relatable on tumblr, the click bait on facebook is much more enticing and my room is way too messy to continue this way. Every activity, be it learning how to lip read or discovering some new music, is ten times more exciting than the actual thing that you are obligated to do.

I know I myself have tried the method of inducing that last minute panic earlier than it actually would come by giving myself random deadlines but it’s so easy to pretend you didn’t see the clock turn 6pm or something.

So this brainwave that I had incorporates this concept and attempts to transform it into something useful for productivity rather than detracting from it.

If you rig it right, somehow, you need to trick yourself into thinking that the work you have to do is a distraction from your real distractions.

Confused? I would be too.

What I’m trying to get at is turning the tables on yourself. Open twitter and give yourself a deadline to write a fantastic and retweet worth blurb and pretend like you are not allowed to do anything until that happens. Then, in another tab, have the research on solar panels that you’ve been trying to do all afternoon just sitting there and see what happens.

Obviously I haven’t actually tried this and there is the obvious pitfall that you could open an entirely different tab with a quiz on what famous internet cat you are (is that a thing?? you never know… And there is!!) BUT it’s an idea is all I’m saying. And as someone that actually needs to be researching solar panels right now, I have written two blog posts in a row so at least I was slightly productive with this technique…

Try this and tell me your findings, fellow internet scientist/procrastinators, whichever you identify with most!

I couldn't resist
I couldn’t resist

Late Excuse

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You don’t even know how much I relate to this.

I am chronically late and even though it stresses me out it will always always happen.

I watch the clock and have a mental list of things I need to have ready before I go but somehow there’s always a mad rush to grab everything I need for school or going to a friends house and like 4 clementines in my pocket because I never got the chance to eat. Without fail.

One way I’ve learned to cope is if there’s an actual need to be on time like a job interview, I trick myself into thinking the time is 15 or 30 minutes earlier so that I’m rushing to meet that time (which I will ultimately fail) and end up ahead of the actual schedule.

If anyone has tips or want to make me feel better by saying this is how they are too, the comments are open!

Family Day

I don’t know what you Americans are on about with President’s Day but here in the north, we’re getting school and work off because of Family Day.

Thus, even though it is my reading week off from university, I have not made any plans with friends and am spending the day with the fam. But unlike other families that probably have cool things planned and winter activities to get up to we do things a little differently.

The day started by not starting until about 11:30am. Missing breakfast entirely, making the cats anxious about not being fed at their usual 6:30am and being awake but not having to get out of bed. Talk about perfect.

We then had a sorting party of receipts and coupons and laundry and got all that cleaning out of the way in a social and chill manner. My sister was looking over her physics homework at the same time so I got to reminisce about those easy times.

Then we had a super important competition of who could throw smarties up in the air and catch them in their mouth the best. I can think of nothing better than watching my mom whole-heartedly participate in this.

The rest of the day was chill, we watched the movie Babe, some episodes of elementary all the while my sister consumed 2 bags of popcorn and I crocheted a shark pencil case.

It was an amazing day and I just had to share it with yall. Normally it isn’t this stress-free to be around them which is why I’m so enthused!

Changing In Relationships

This is going to be a rambly post with no real conclusion. I’ve just got some thinking to do and this type of platform will actually get me feedback other than my own thoughts bouncing around my skull.

So relationships man. I have a boyfriend and have had him for over 4 months and he’s great and I think this is the first time I’ve mentioned him? He’s my cool heartssecond boyfriend but the first was in grade 11 so in retrospect I don’t think it counted as much. Not that I’m saying at 19 I am old and worldly and totally ready for romance and everything that comes with it. I’m just trying things out, I have no clue what I’m doing to be honest.

Something that’s been on my mind a lot though is changing, or not changing, for said significant other. Specifically, what is the proper protocol? I’ve always heard staying true to yourself is the way to go and that if he really loves you he’ll love all your flaws and quirks and I think that’s adorable and great. It’s the dream! Having someone who  thinks everything you do is perfect even though it’s really not.

But on the flip side there’s the notion that for a relationship to work you always have to compromise and put the other person first. That it’s about two people now and not just one. Which is a pretty key point if both parties are going to be happy being around each other. It’s definitely impossible to find someone who  shares every single interest and opinion with you so things are inevitably going to clash.

Having these two opposing points that are both valid in my opinion, what’s a girl to do? (Or anyone actually, I just like the fact that that’s already a saying.) Having mulled it over before spilling my thoughts onto my keyboard, I feel like it’s a matter of time??? Perhaps the first point, not changing too much for somebody else is really important at the beginning, when you’re first dating and figuring out that you like each other because you want to fall for the actual person, not the image they’re projecting in efforts to make themselves look more appealing. And making sure you are still a human being that can function independently of your partner is important too.

So the question is, at what point is it okay to make the transition? How far into a relationship? Is it just a thing for when you’re married? Or you live together and things like who gets what side and which way the toilet paper should face have to be decided on? Maybe I’m looking at it all wrong and these two things coexist the entire time?

If anyone has some light to shed on the situation, that would be particularly helpful because I am a cautious person that never jumps into anything without having her facts straight and since this isn’t so easily google-able, other people’s experience and wisdom will do just fine.

Also his name is Alex and he’s very cute.